Picture it ladies. You’re in the middle of the diddle with your flavour of the moment or maybe even your beloved, when suddenly you find yourself thinking about how far behind you are on a project at work or the errand you forgot to run before you got home that night.
That’s right, despite your partner’s ‘other worldly’ skills and natural prowess in the bedroom, for some reason unbeknownst to you, your mind has pulled out of the action and you can no longer focus on what’s going on between your legs. So, what do you do to bring your mind back into the game?
a) Ask your partner to hit it a little faster and harder.
b) Try your best to appear interested and no got out like a starfish until he’s done.
c) Squeeze your eyes shut and picture the sexiest thing you can think of.
d) None of the above.
If you chose c, much like yours truly, you understand the lust inducing power of a really hot visual during sex. What’s that you say? You want to know what I picture when I’m having sex and my mind drifts away?
Uhmmm…well…I usually imagine that I’m being serviced by… uhmmm… I can’t believe I’m telling you this…two men – sometimes more if I’m really honest.
There I’ve said it. If I lose my ‘focus’ during sex (and depending on the skill of my partner, sometimes to increase my chances of having an orgasm – because I’m so not into faking), I envision myself with a few guys to get my mind right. And when I do, I picture it all as if I’m standing in the room, watching the action happening to me (further evidence of my voyeuristic tendencies).
I’m not sure why this works for me, as I’ve never participated in any kind of group sex, but I do get real excited when I watch porn (very rarely I assure you) that features multiple guy on one girl action. Can you imagine how good it would feel to have a few pairs of hands and lips on your body girls? Personally, I think my head would explode from all the stimulation. (And yes, having a few extra cocks in the room would be cool too – as long as none of them are trying to access my back door. I’ve got a serious case of IBC).
Of course my being turned on by the thought of having more than one man in my bed begs the question, will I ever partake in group action? I doubt it, as I’m one who believes that not every fantasy we have needs to be fulfilled (after all there are times when the reality of things isn’t so hot right?) That said, I’ve learned that when it comes to sex, I should never say never, as I’ve done a lot of things in my boudoir that I once boldly declared I’d never ever do. In any case, I guess you’ll all have to keep reading this blog to find out if I ever partake in a little group action.
So readers, what thought/image brings out the “randy-ness” in you? Do you think your partner would be miffed if he/she knew your mind was elsewhere during sex? And would it bother to find out your partner’s ‘fantasies’ about being with someone else fueled their passion for you in the bedroom?












5 Comments
Comment by Elizabeth Rose — January 13, 2010 @ 6:10 am
Skye – you dark horse!
Must confess, I’m partial to remembering past orgasms to regain my focus. Bit unfair if that I am visualizing didn’t occur with my current lover but it helps!
So… If your IBC even happens in fantasy situations what kind of group interaction features? Are you a spit roast girl?!? (are you going to kill me for asking this publically?)
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Comment by opinionated — January 13, 2010 @ 4:05 pm
Skye – what’s with the silence? Aren’t you going to answer Elizabeth’ question. Inquiring minds want to know… are you a ’spit roast girl’?
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Comment by Skye Blue — January 13, 2010 @ 4:16 pm
Re being a ’spit fire girl’, i’ll use the response my new fave ‘frenemy’ Elizabeth Rose a similar question from another reader…
I’m pleading the 5th.
My apologies to all the inquiring minds
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Comment by Aunt Juicebox — January 13, 2010 @ 6:21 pm
Er, I’m willing to admit there is one particular fantasy that keeps resurfacing in my mind lately, but I won’t say what it is.
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Comment by Jaime — January 14, 2010 @ 10:50 am
I think the less I know about what my partner is thinking the better. As you mention, reality is a bitch, and while he may be thinking of Megan Fox, the reality is he’s with me…cellulite and all. so I’d rather just fool myself into believing I turn him on that much rather than thinking he needs Megan to get ready for me….even if he does.
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