Comments on: Guest Post: Love – A Choice

By: demure lemur

demure lemur — Tue, 16 Feb 2010 23:52:13 +0000

@ Daniel – Oh P.S. hope your gig went well. Sorry I couldn’t go. Next time!

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By: demure lemur

demure lemur — Tue, 16 Feb 2010 23:51:20 +0000

@ Elizabeth Rose: Aw, thank you for the good energy. I’m sure we felt it buzzing around us somewhere. Hoorah for you and your ethical slutiness. I have always hated being judged for choosing to have casual sex and casual relationships. I’ve also always found it difficult to have more than one person on the go at once (not that that’s stopped me trying), but if you can do it, more power to you! I admire poly, poly is pretty x

@ Daniel Yep, talking is the best thing, even when it’s hard. When you’ve lost the will to communicate with someone, it’s over. I think Valentine’s day rocks. Flowers and dinner and bubble baths and jewelry and silly cards – what’s not to like?

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By: Daniel

Daniel — Mon, 15 Feb 2010 20:58:30 +0000

My philosophy is that talking can solve pretty much everything – it either reconciles differences, or makes very clear how irreconcilable they are. It’s a tough situation, and I think you’re giving yourselves the best shot you can.

Even if Valentines Day is all made-up, that doesn’t mean it doesn’t mean anything, sometimes the best traditions come from the most random beginnings, even cynical ones

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By: Elizabeth Rose

Elizabeth Rose — Sun, 14 Feb 2010 19:38:29 +0000

@demure lemur I’ve had my heart in my throat for you all day. Hope the Talk went well!

I agree with your definition of love as a choice, but I myself take it the step further that the western concept of romantic love is also a choice. Currently it’s not my choice which leaves many of my beloved friends wondering if I can possibly be happy outside of their culturally defined norms. For them I purchase the book “the ethical slut” for valentine’s, birthdays or just because and continue on my polyamorous way. (whistling a jaunty tune)

But – while it’s not my current path, I respect those who choose it. Which is why this v-day I’ve been channeling what karma I have over to you and your lover as you make your plans.

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