Love…Bites

SKYE BLUE

Guess what kids? Today we’re going to discuss the latest trend among vampire obsessed (and possibly horny) teens and a fetish that appears to be pretty popular among pain lovin’ kinksters (over 61 000 people on fetlife.com are down with getting their kink on in this manner) – Odaxelagnia. In plain English that’s sexual arousal achieved through biting a partner or being bitten.

For the record I’m not a fan of biting – giving or receiving (yes I know, I’m a punk ass) – but it seems that our cultural obsession with vampires is making biting seem like a real sexy thing to do – even with the kids. And my peeps who are into biting point out sinking your teeth into your bed mate or having their teeth sink into your flesh, can be a huge turn on – if done correctly. With that in my mind, I’m going to go ahead and throw up some sexy biting tips I collected from some of my kinky buddies…

Enjoy!

1. Check your technique. You can nibble, do full on biting – with a whole lot of teeth, or just kick it like you’re still in high school and do the hickey thing, which (for my old timers who may not remember) involves both biting and sucking. The choice is yours. Just do what’s comfortable for you – and your mate.
2. Start easy. Always begin by nibbling and then work your way up to harder bites. This is especially important if you’re new to biting and/or you’re trying it for the first time with a new partner. This gives you both a chance to learn the level of pleasure-pain, you can tolerate during your sex play.
3. Have a Safe Word. This is especially important if the two of you are into to really painful bites (you know the kind that may break the skin and sometimes draws blood – generally not recommended, but I’m not here to judge, so go ahead and do you – SAFELY). Having a safe word will make sure you don’t send your partner reeling to new heights of un-pleasure because the pain you’re inflicting is beyond unbearable.
4. Stick to the erogenous zones. Don’t just roll up on your partner and bite his/her ear or forehead like you’re a cannibal looking for your next meal (unless of course you know for sure your mate digs that shit). From what I’ve been told, most people (even those who are really into biting) will find it super un-sexy and you don’t want to turn your kink into konk just as the games begin. So just stick to nibbling on the nape of your lover’s neck, inner thighs or nipples.
5. Keep It Quick…Unless Serious Pain Is What You’re After. If you want to keep real pain out of your biting, then make your bites short and sweet – that’s a few seconds only.  FYI: Longer bites = more pain being registered. So if inducing pain is NOT your goal, make sure your bites keep your bites quick. However, if on the other hand, you and your partner like to bring the pain, then clamping your teeth down on the same spot for a while oughta do the trick.
6. Leave the Growling and Barking to the Animals. Although your partner may love the animal in you in the bedroom, he/she probably doesn’t want you to make noises like one. Virtually every one I spoke to on the subject stressed this point, stating that – NOTHING kills the mood like growling or barking as you bite your mate.  So, people please keep the farm animal noises out of your bedrooms.
7. Never EVER Gnaw. Gnawing is apparently even more unappealing than the animal sounds. So good people, keep your bites crisp and clean (that code for keeping the slobbering to a minimum folks) to prevent your mate from feeling like your dog’s chew toy – yeah, the really old and always soggy one.
8. Pay Attention to Your Partner. Now, if you’re the one doing the biting, don’t get so caught up in what you’re doing that you fail to notice your partner’s reaction. Be sure to listen and watch while you put in work, so you know that your partner is groaning and writhing from pleasure-pain, and not the unbearable kind…unless of course causing your bed mate to suffer is your goal. In which case you need to hunker down and bite his/her whiny ass a whole lot harder. Come on, really put your teeth into it. You want to get laid don’t you?

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And there you have it folks – my eight tips to get your bite on in the boudoir.

Until next time happy biting and as always…

Play safe.

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