Voyeur or Exhibitionist?

SAM SHARPE

In my last post, Lights! Camera! Action! I wrote about the rise of the celebrity sex tape.  Today, I’m going to talk a little bit more about our apparent obsession with voyeurism and exhibitionism.

Let’s be honest folks. We human beings love us some voyeurism. The popularity of homemade sex tapes, public sex and dogging is enough evidence. I think everyone reading this knows all about homemade sex tapes and public sex, but I’m fairly certain many of you dear readers don’t know what the hell dogging is. Well, dogging is to public sex what Usain Bolt is to sprinting or Tiger Woods is to golf (or philandering?); it’s the next level. Popularized in the UK, dogging is defined by Wikipedia as:

“engaging in sexual acts in a semi-public place (typically a secluded car park in a car) and then watching others doing so. Frequently, there are more than two participants; both group sex and gang banging can be included. As observation is encouraged, voyeurism and exhibitionism are closely associated with dogging. The two sets of people involved often meet either randomly or (increasingly) arrange to meet-up beforehand over the Internet.”

I don’t know about you but that sounds like a real barrel of laughs to me. This dogging phenomenon highlights a few things:

1. People love them some voyeurism and exhibitionism, and it’s clear that they are willing to go to great lengths to scratch their itch.
2. Man, the Internet is cool. It has totally revolutionized where, when and how people can pursue their sexual interests.
3. Man, the Internet is scary. It has totally revolutionized where, when and how people can pursue their sexual interests.

Now for all of you with a strong exhibitionist streak, I also wanted to touch on some important things to consider when making a homemade sex tape. This isn’t going to be a how to: that information is pretty much common sense, and for the few of you out there who lack common sense, you can find that information elsewhere on the Internet (isn’t the world wide web great!)

With my own personal experience in mind, here are a few things to consider:

1. They say TV/Video makes things look bigger. For you fellas out there getting excited because you think it’s going to make your unit look like a tree trunk, please remember that it will make EVERYTHING look bigger. If you’ve got a little gut, you may look a little like Santa Claus. Ass a little soft? Prepare to look like you’re smuggling marshmallows in your ass cheeks. After my own excursion into video land I was mortified at how big I looked. It was depressing.
2. Going into it, the idea of hearing my foxy little lady’s sexy love noises was a turn on. I didn’t account for the fact that I tended to make some interesting noises of my own. Nothing is worse than having to listen to yourself moan like a stuck pig.
3. Make sure to do it all. For me, it was a little trip into ‘fantasyland’. My partner and I made a pact to destroy the tape after we watched it, so we made sure to do everything. And when I say everything, I mean EVERYTHING. I put her into a different position for every element in the periodic table. It was golden (Au).
4. Facial expression. Until I ventured into sex video land, I had never considered what my face looked like when engaging in sexual acts. I had always assumed I had the calm, cool almost detached demeanor of a James Bond or Shaft when in the sack. Wrong. Fail. I looked confused, constipated and in pain. It was horrific. Even if my partner and I hadn’t agreed beforehand to destroy the footage, the contortions of my face alone would have prompted me to wrap the videotape in TNT and blow it the F*** up.

Having said all that, I would recommend videotaping a sexual session to anyone (as long as both parties are consenting). It is at turns edifying, horrifying and fascinating. But most importantly, it is hot as hell.

So which one is it? Are you a voyeur or an exhibitionist?

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